So as I mentioned on my personal blog, Friday was my birthday. It gave me the opportunity (twice in one month!) to go out and be social in a bar/night life type setting. Me and a couple other single friends went to a fabulous small brewery. Wonderful food and wonderful beer. For the most part I had a great time–visit my blog for the scoop–but there was one thing that really chapped my hide.

At one point a group of overly flirty (drunk) younger guys decided to join up at our table. The bar was crowded, we had room, and there were customers waiting for a table. So the boys started to invade. The table behind us, a couple of guys in their mid-late 30’s (who’d been flirting with us) asked us if we wanted to join them. I had checked earlier for wedding rings, other women, and there were none. And since I was just buzzed enough, I smiled and said sure. And so did one of the girls I was with (the other chick lingered with the young guys).

The two men we’d joined up with were talking and flirting mildly, and then it happens. About fifteen minutes into joining them one starts to talk about his kid. I’m thinking…hmm, divorced. Then he starts talking about the kids mom, and I’m thinking…hmm, so they’re on good terms. Then he drops the W word. Wife. And my friend and I are like  :wtf:

Turns out both are married and just happened to not be wearing rings. And apparently that also makes it okay to invite obviously single women to their table and flirt mildly. At this point I’m a wee bit peeved. My friend and I ditch them soon after and go back to the younger (and cuter) drunken boys and my friend.

So here’s my question. If you’re married, are you okay with your wife/hubby not wearing a ring? Maybe some people are. Actually, I know some are. One of my friend’s doesn’t wear hers because she gained weight right after the wedding and won’t get it resized, just insists on losing the weight first. It’s been years.

Personally, I think not wearing a ring just breeds trouble. In the land of Singledom, it’s how we people judge on who may or may not be available. No ring is a green light (but even then, we’re still wary that there’s a gfriend/bfriend on the side).

So what are your thoughts? If you’re married, is it okay to skip the ring every now and then? Ever? All the time?

Here’s a pic (actually taken by Mr. Ringless when he volunteered)