Sick of Sex!
I’m sick of sex.
Seriously, I have been writing sex nonstop for two weeks and I can’t take it anymore! I have three erotica works in progress and they are all sex. Sex sex sex. I can’t keep it up. I mean straight. Who’s panties got ripped of in the hallway? Who got cuffed and bent over a truck? Who had her hair pulled? I need an excel spreadsheet to keep track of all these positions!
I have no one to blame but myself. I have two deadlines the end of this month. Of course, I knew about these deadlines for a while now. Like months. And of course I waited until the last minute to write these stories. So it’s all my fault. Still. It’s hard. Get it? Hard!
Anyway, tell me. As a writer or a reader, do you ever get sick of writing or reading sex?
September 20th, 2007 at 12:01 am
Me first!
I don’t read sex as much as I used to before I started writing it — so I don’t get sick of it, there.
When writing it, if I’m doing what the characters WANT to do, it’s easy. When I’m tryin’ to make ‘em behave in ways they’re not ready for, they fight me.
Of course, that tender double penetration scene was a bit of a challenge, but …
September 20th, 2007 at 12:53 am
Yeah I know what you mean. Sometimes I get sick of writing it too. Or just flat out stuck. Like - hell where do I go next? Doesn’t this sound like that sex scene I wrote last week? Wait, I have to write ANOTHER orgasm scene? Gawd…
Nice pic. Where’d ya get it?
September 20th, 2007 at 1:02 am
I tell ya, if I have to write one more penetration scene… in, out, in, out. Squeak. Squeak.
I get tired of it at times, other times (maybe when I’m ovulating) I can’t WAIT to get to the S-E-X.
What’s really bizarre is writing sex in a contemporary romance that’s not going to be marketed as erotic. I sit there and think…can he do that? Can I say that word?
September 20th, 2007 at 1:23 am
There’s nothing quite so disconcerting as to write a sex scene while commuting from work on the bus. I always feel like the other passengers can read my thoughts. That keeps the sex from feeling dull, let me tell you.
September 20th, 2007 at 2:03 am
OK girls…get ready to laugh at Johnny.
I am very uncomfortable writing sex scenes. I literally blush and have to walk away occasionally because I get so embarassed.
Now this is coming from the guy who realizes his sex drive at 40 may be stronger than ever and has seen enough porn to make Ron Jeremy smile! Maybe it is the fact that when I was shooting bodybuilding and fitness women I never had a uhhh “biological reaction” to the subject matter. I was a consumate professional and that industry, most models know each other and they talk amongst themselves. I don’t know, but when it came to writing my first erotic I was all “awww shucks”.
In fact, except for the characters and setting of Fiends With Benefits, I doubt I write any more erotics.
September 20th, 2007 at 8:52 am
I’m with you on that. Sometimes I just need to write something else! It does get tiring. I say take a mini break, honey, and then come back fresh. In fact . . . maybe refrain from having sex for a month so when you pick these scenes up again you’ll enjoy them a bit . . .? ROFL!!
September 20th, 2007 at 9:34 am
Yes, yes, yes!!!
I don’t have to write nonstop sex in Blaze, so I’m lucky there — I knew erotica was never the place for me for that reason, but sometimes even then it’s a chore. In my other books, I have actually been writing less sex — working with sexual tension and heat, but less actual sex, and finding it really does free you up to think of other things in a story (imagine).
I always tell people doing is much more interesting than writing, in that respect…
In reading, I have less patience. I’m not a prude, far from it, but I have to have a lot of story to go along with the sex or I get impatient and don’t finish the book. I guess, again, doing is more interesting that reading, in that respect. I don’t read a book for the sex, though I enjoy it if it’s well done and part of a strong story…
Sam
September 20th, 2007 at 10:13 am
Yes! I get tired of it. I get to a point where it all seems so monotonous and clinical.
What I do then is take a break, maybe watch a sexy movie. That sometimes helps.
September 20th, 2007 at 10:36 am
You you, after I posted this last night I went to bed and thought, “Oh shit! Did I just diss my genre?”
So I’m glad to know I’m not the only one who feels that way sometimes. Because there’s a reason I write erotica-I love it. But I think that, like anything, one needs a change once in awhile to shake things up. I’ve been writing erotica for a year now and I have three or four WIPS right now. It’s just too much!
After I finish my commitments I think I’ll buckle down on my steampunk. Will there be hot sex? Well, I am Feisty…
September 20th, 2007 at 10:38 am
Oh, and Red? Not too sure how well your suggestion would go over with Manroot
September 20th, 2007 at 10:49 am
Stop having sex? Maybe if I started again it’d inspire something
I am always really plot heavy even in my erotic romances. I just can’t write straight sex for 40-350 pages.
September 20th, 2007 at 11:40 am
I can.
September 20th, 2007 at 11:41 am
My problem is when I have to write “perfect” sex. Sex isn’t always pretty and I find that the most fascinating part of it. Unfortunately, that is often a harder sell.
September 20th, 2007 at 2:18 pm
You know - I asked a male gynecologist friend once if he felt like going down on his wife after having looked at crotches all day long. He said something to the effect that he did sometimes need to spend a little time away from hoohas - he would go bowling with male friends when that was the case (no, nothing phallic about that at ALL). But that he generally liked his wife’s honeypot because, well, it was HERS and not some patient’s.
What I learned from that was it’s all perspective. Step away from the page for a bit - it will become fresh again. So to speak…
September 20th, 2007 at 4:38 pm
When I start getting sick of sex it’s time to switch to a new genre for a bit.
September 20th, 2007 at 8:32 pm
Um….no.
September 20th, 2007 at 9:10 pm
Oh Gwen! It’s so great to have insight on that. I don’t know how gynos do it. Seriously. Everytime he got busy with his fingers you’d think he was doing a pelvic exam.
September 20th, 2007 at 9:42 pm
I don’t think I could ever talk to my gyno about his sex life…how weird is that. I have to tell him about mine, but the gander/goose thing just doesn’t apply here, lol.
I have only written one sex scene. So, not sick of it yet. It was hard for me to do though. I imagine it will get easier.
September 20th, 2007 at 9:43 pm
I haven’t written any sex since right before Valentine’s Day (yes, Seniorella), so I’m seriously missing it. I think I needed to miss it.
September 20th, 2007 at 10:40 pm
Um, Robin??
Okay, that explains a LOT! Get to work!!
September 21st, 2007 at 2:21 am
LOL! Robin! Seriously, your characters need to GET SOME!
September 21st, 2007 at 2:37 am
As a reader I don’t get sick of reading sex. Reason is because I switch up on my reading. I read different genres so I don’t get sick of what I do read. I do enjoy reading erotica though. So for me no I don’t get sick of it
Hugssss
LindaH
September 21st, 2007 at 3:28 am
I don’t get sick of it from either perspective. I have had a time where I was eager to get to finishing up a plotline and stuck *insert sex here* in my manuscript… which my editor quite enjoyed…
I do feel pressure to deviate… to not write a scene I feel I have already written a dozen times. But I think that pressure can be turned to a positive…
However, that said… I need to spend more time on research. I really do.
September 21st, 2007 at 9:29 am
I’m just tired. All the time. Ugh. I hate the beginning of the school year. So I don’t have enough energy left over to get tired of writing sex. Because I’m already tired. And because I’m honestly not writing right now.
September 21st, 2007 at 6:36 pm
Oh, yeah, but when I get in that kind of mood I just write “insert love scene here” and carry on with my story. Fill in the blanks later. Works for me. Also doing it this way you can make sure I have character growth in my love scenes
I didn’t mean to have the pun but what the heck, it fits…
September 22nd, 2007 at 7:49 am
Yes. Yes. and Yes.
I “burnt out,” so to speak, on writing erotic fiction awhile back. It really hit a peak when a couple people in my writer’s chat didn’t encourage anything but erotic stuff. (If you posted a sex scene, it was oohed over; if you posted a non-sex scene, the response was “Meh.”)
Yeah, I’m a contrary sorta person. Whatever gave you that idea?
As a reader, I’m getting annoyed that every fucking book I seem to pick up is — a fucking book. :P I don’t mind erotic romance, but sometimes I’d like to read a book where the hero and heroine aren’t screwing for half of it. Sexual tension, peoples!
September 22nd, 2007 at 5:12 pm
And I I read one more sex club book I’m gonna scream.
Except for my next release, of course. The Sting of Desire. But it’s a CIRCUS sex club!
September 25th, 2007 at 8:25 pm
oh jeez. Admitting things online… NOT GOOD! I don’t read erotica. But, if my romance doesn’t have some very page-turn worthy sex scenes, i have a hard time…turning the pages. Is it because I’m just 31? Could be. I LOVE SEX! LOL. If I pick up a book and haven’t met both the hero and heroine in the first chapter? Fuhgetadaboutit. I want to see right away the tension/attraction/hate/whatever…
No womens Litty for me.