Men and Women
Can men and women just be friends?
Some girls and I were discussing this talk at dinner last night. I know it’s an old question, and one that never seems to be answered, but I’m still wondering. My girlfriend thinks that any man who approaches a woman is only after one thing, and I’m sure you can guess what that is. However, I really don’t think enough of myself to assume that every guy who talks to me is wanting to get a peak at my naughty bits. I mean, I know my cleavage is something to behold, but isn’t it at all possible that I’m also a fascinating conversationalist?
I was on a flight recently. It was delayed. Some guy next to me struck up a conversation. The guy showed me pics of his wife and kids. My friends all said he was full of shit and was really just a psycho with a master plan to stalk me. WTF? Am I that naïve or is everyone else jaded?
Tell me your opinion: can men and women just be friends?
August 16th, 2007 at 1:43 am
hmmm. Well I could say that Cookie thinks you’re awesome cause you talk about wild “no filter” things at the dinner table just like him. But he also thinks you’re cute so that might not work.
I was best friends and roommates with Cookie for five years before we got together-but he says he always wanted to be with me {insert waggling eyebrows here} so once again that doesn’t work.
I’ve also had another male friend for five years-crud-we dated BEFORE we became friends-thats like a reverse deletion. Maybe you can be real friends with a man you end things with on good terms-because he’s not wondering-he already knows?
Maybe I should quit now.
P.S. Cookie is reading this over my shoulder and listing off all the women he is “just friends” with and with whom he has absolutely no interest in doing the hunka chunka {isnt that a romantic term?} He seems sincere and rather indignant. LOL
August 16th, 2007 at 10:30 am
I have several guy friends who have no desire to see my naughty bits, and I have absolutely no desire to see theirs. I’ve always had guy friends, ever since I was a little girl. (Yeah, I tended to be a tomboy) And thankfully my husband isn’t the jealous type and knows that guys who are just friends are just that.
I’m happily married. But as a normal human woman, there are always guys around who I have that passing moment of “what would it be like to have a wild night with them?” I think that’s kind of normal. But I would never act on it. I have a great husband, and would never jeopardize that. But everyone has those curious moments, that doesn’t mean those relationships can’t remain just friendships.
My .02 :)
August 16th, 2007 at 11:08 am
R.G., well, Coookie is in a class of his own. And we all want to see his naughty bits, so I don’t think that counts.
Cassie,
I totally agree with everything you said.
August 16th, 2007 at 11:12 am
I think a man and a woman can totally just be friends. But I will say that I think the man is always imagining what it’s like to go to bed with that person. And sometimes the woman does it too. Even if they know they’ll never act on it, I still think that thought it there.
August 16th, 2007 at 1:52 pm
Absolutely they can be just friends. I’ve also had the pleasure of having several male friends, completely platonic, and it’s wonderful. The opposite is also true — my husband has a female friend from his younger days, and it’s great that they are still friends. The best part is that his friends and my friends became our friends, we all get together with their kids and families, but it’s also nice to have that friendship history with another person. I love having guy friends.
Sam
August 16th, 2007 at 8:54 pm
Yes, men and woman can definitely be friends. I’ve always had lots of male friends, mainly because of work. My husband has lots of female friends, again, because of work.
However, it’s possible that I’ve had some instances of, shall we say, using my imagination where my guy friends are concerned. Just out of curiousity, ya know? But it would never go beyond that. And if they do the same, I’m cool with that.
August 17th, 2007 at 10:23 am
Depends. I have yet to be friends with a guy where I knew for certain both of us didn’t want each other. But HEY! It could happen!
And you’re right.
Your boobs really are a sight to behold. You really did waste them on tranny karaoke though.
August 17th, 2007 at 11:47 am
Like Julie said I’ve had lots of male friends because of where I worked. It was almost all men and though they would make the inappropriate joke here and there (ok more here than there but that’s beside the point) I was friends with many of them. Still am (though I don’t work there anymore).
Of course I met my husband there and we were friends first. I always thought he was the greatest guy - then realized hey I WANT that great guy!
LOL
August 18th, 2007 at 9:18 am
All my friends are women.
I don’t like my gender much. I find them testosterone addled jackasses with bad inferiority complexes for the most part.
And since I took an oath of celibacy I find I don’t look at women as sexual object any more.
Most of the time. ;)
August 18th, 2007 at 1:19 pm
Of course men and women can be friends. I have many women friends, mostly married now, and we all have wonderful relationships with each other, continuing over many years. We trust and communicate with each other as well, if not better, than my male friends. But what I think you are talking about in your blog are acquaintances, not good friends. People you meet on/in airplanes, taxis, bars, restaurants, etc., are just passing moments of human interaction–no matter how fun or intense the “connection” may be. I would never come close to fully trust a stranger to be honest and forthright with how they view me (especially if your as hot as Feisty). They and I would have to earn mutual trust through many forms of interaction of a period of time–I guess that’s when they could be called a friend, male or female.